People and realisations

I find other people so fascinating. Yesterday I went to a barbecue and met some new people and it all started off fairly normal and easy going but by the end of the night there was drama.

What gets me is that sometimes I meet people that have an amazing house, a great job with good money and are living comfortably. They get to travel and do fun things. I have always believed that having all that stability and money automatically means you will be happy and satisfied. But that isn't always the case.

One guy I meant last night has this ideal life I often find myself craving for, yet I could see by the end of the night after something happened to him that he wasn't particularly happy with himself and his life. By the end of the night he was alone drinking and feeling sorry for himself because he wanted a girl he couldn't have. (In a nutshell he had invited an ex to the barbecue who then all convinced us to go out to a club later in the evening. Whilst there he saw her kissing another man and it really hurt him. He left the club feeling distraught.)

It surprised me a little that someone seemingly so "sorted" in life was still prone to that kind of heartbreak and I realised that even if I had all the things he had, it wouldn't mean I'd be immune to sadness or hurt, or that crushing feeling of loneliness that I experience now and then.

I suppose it really doesn't matter what you do in life, you'll always want something you can't have and experience disappointments. Believing that if you had or did certain things you will instantly be happy isn't right. I gradually realise each day that I shouldn't assume money will make me happy. What would probably make me happier is just to live my life as best I can even if I can't go off on expensive holidays or buy nice things. Being kind, considerate and helpful towards others would also bring me more satisfaction than being able to afford a fancy handbag.

It's probably always best to remember that money can come and go, but your values and who you are as a person is what sticks. Don't ever focus on the materials of life. You just have to carry on regardless, make the best of what you have and accept that we can't have it all.

F x